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On difficulties and trust in body psychotherapy for couples
אוג׳ 11, 2020
On difficulties and trust in body psychotherapy for couples
Each couple therapy process starts with a certain difficulty – a crisis for the couple, or a real crossroads – over the question whether to separate or to stay together - and how?
When a couple comes to therapy in the clinic it’s usually following an accumulation of difficulties. It’s been going on for quite a while, and maybe it took time until they realised the need for therapy. Sometimes once partner pushes for it and the other agrees.
It can result from a specific crisis, from an obvious trigger like a crisis of trust, betrayal, financial difficulties or problems with the children. In many cases though, it’s a bit of everything - life, routine, career, personal fulfilment, life- and age-transitions, the children, the couple’s parents, their financial situation, sexuality and desire, and of course – each one’s behaviour patterns, and communication difficulties stemming from differences in character.
For every difficulty that couples bring with them to the clinic - and it makes no difference which tensions, pressures, and crises are reflected in the armour surrounding them - I have the experience, belief, tools and confidence to help, to illuminate matters, to help the couple see more than their individual and couple difficulties and weaknesses.
In the therapeutic process we use joint work to melt the armour
(URL) and to gain access to what lies below: to what connects them, each partner’s qualities, resources and healing sources for their couple relationship. From that point, we’ll find a shared way for enhancement, connections, for love, and for better discourse.
In every new couple-process, the connection between couple therapy and body psychotherapy is enriching, meaningful and exciting, and for over 15 years it’s been an important personal mission for me.
I would like to invite you to learn about that connection through workshops and further study courses
for therapists. And of course I invite you to a process of personal enhancement as therapists - to learn body psychotherapy for couples in a Zoom course opening in November 2020. It will be conducted in English, for a target population of therapists worldwide.
A few words about the couple therapy course
The course targets psychotherapists and therapists with experience from different spheres who are interested in working with couples and acquiring tools and know-how from the body psychotherapy world - techniques of awareness, conversation, movement, touch, and breathing.
In a journey of experiential and theoretical learning, we’ll study the complexity of couple therapy, which requires encompassing ‘four people’ in the therapy room: the couple, the couple relationship, the therapist, and of course the referential ties between all of them.
The learning process will give the individual therapist tools for coping and for couple therapy, together with personal enhancement and empowerment.
This is the fifth session of the course for body psychotherapy therapists, and I’m grateful for the privilege to teach it again for students and therapists (and for other clients as well).
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